Most of the time, we women feel like we speak a different language than men. Men don't understand women. This is probably because both sides simply talk past each other. Women tend to think about certain things, situations, and matters more intensely and in more complex ways. Men, on the other hand, are wired more simply and don't dwell on a single thought for very long. That's why men get annoyed with women fairly quickly — especially because of all the talking. Women, by contrast, long for long, intense conversations.

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Understanding Men - Not So Easy After All?

Men don't understand why, for example, you'd need to think so much about grocery shopping. You just go shopping and that's it. To try to understand men's train of thought, women usually spend hours pondering and speculating over how to interpret certain behaviors or statements. But the gentlemen usually mean exactly what they say, without any hidden agenda behind it. After a failed relationship, women search for possible reasons and mentally relive the entire relationship all over again — even though they were already told the reason for the breakup. All this thinking is a major source of stress for women, which is one reason why men tend to be more relaxed and less strict with themselves than women.

Understanding Men - Prejudices

Weighing pros and cons isn't a man's thing. There's only yes or no. To understand men, you don't have to be a genius — you should simply use fewer commas and more full stops. Not everything has to be analyzed, examined, planned, and evaluated down to the last detail. That's exactly what helps you understand men a little better. Let's take the example of wanting to buy a Labrador:

A woman needs about two weeks to think this decision over. In making it, she'll consider and meticulously analyze the animal's size, its feeding needs, how much exercise it needs, its life expectancy, possible illnesses, and its temperament. A man, on the other hand, decides whether he likes Labradors or not. And depending on that, he either buys one or he doesn't. Details like whether the dog would get enough exercise will just sort themselves out along the way. Men understand precise, simple instructions or statements better than long explanations full of "ifs" and "buts."

Ultimately, you could say that understanding men really isn't that hard. Unless you yourself think way too much about everything, which then keeps you from following men's train of thought. It sounds more complicated than it is, but it really isn't.